Month: March 2013

Your Morals vs. Him….or Her

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Yet another lesson from the notorious Eli Horris:

Lesson 3:

Do Not – UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES – compromise your morals for any boyfriend or girlfriend.

Your morals make up who you are. Who you choose to be. They are instilled within your core and are the foundation of who you are. Now, tell me, why one earth would you mend these for anyone?

My ex-boyfriend partook in illegal actions (that I will not state for the sake of confidentiality) and I was so in love, that I looked passed it.  This girl right here is a woman of her word, yet love seemed to be a worm that ate the common sense in my brain. I told myself ever since I knew I liked boys, “I will not be with a man that does this or that.” Yet here I was dating Eli and accepting his bad habits.

You, reader, should understand, that the love you have for another, should never surpass the love you have for yourself.  Since your morals are part of you and essentially ARE you, you should not have to tolerate things you’re not comfortable with. Temptation is a mother…, and you do not want to look back and feel remorse.

If things have already happened, like they had to me, then just think to yourself: It happened. It won’t happen again. It was an innocent mistake. I was naive. Now I am wiser.

Lessons you take from your past, help mold your future.

If you see your morals being compromised or serving as an insignificant factor to your significant other, stop the madness before it commences.

You do what you feel is right. I mean, this post is about your beliefs, right?

🙂

Why Today Was A Good Day 3/12

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(Photo taken in the French Riviera [Cannes, France])

It’s midterm week here in Italy, so you’d think that there would be nothing too great about today but I can assure you life stood on a positive note today.

1. I am sure I passed my Ethics Midterm! Thank goodness for opinion based open-ended questions…

2. I straightened my hair & realized it grew longer.

3. My window panel in my bedroom got fixed (No more sunlight beams in my face at 7 a.m.)

4. I lost the weight I gained during my weekend in France (3 days of oh-so-delicious carbs with no regrets)

5. I failed miserably at making caramel sauce, BUT the outcome was still delicious for my green apples 🙂

The past 3 hours of today have been a little hectic due to studying and uncontrollable thoughts, but typing these up has honestly put a smile on my face.

I would suggest it to you all as well.  Maybe not to flood your blog with this specific topic as I will be doing (sorry in advance!), but maybe keeping a mini notebook & keeping track of the good things about either yourself or your day.

Remember, your happiness depends on you 🙂

Why Today Was Good Day 3/10

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I am on the mission to become the happiest I can be, because happiness is not about my circumstances or where I am in life, but instead, I see happiness as a state of mind.

Even on the worst days from now forth, I plan to find at least 3-5 good things that have happened.  By doing this, I can focus on the positive as opposed to the negative and voila! The negative aspects in my life or day can be pushed aside.

March 10, 2013

1. I completed my Prezi for my ethics course

2. I did not overeat.

3. My laundry was fully dry.

4. I was able to skype with my parents for a few minutes 🙂

5. I now have time to study for my midterm exams this upcoming week.

Simple, yet good.  Even the little things count towards our happiness.

You Never Really Had Much

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Lesson #2 You Never Really Had Much in the First Place

Ha! This is so far the second thing that my romantic past has taught me.  I was in such a miserable state after a recent break-up that I never really realized until now that I did not lose much.  “Eli” had never changed.  He is the same person now that he was when I first broke up with him.

What I’m telling you, reader, is that sometimes even when you think you had it all, you probably didn’t.  Love is truly blind and can negate all the things you looked passed during your relationship, that you know you don’t deserve now.

To reiterate: Your ex is the same person you broke up with.  They did not change overnight  (after your breakup) into your prince charming or fantasy woman.  The real person who has changed is you.  You evolved. You are wiser. And you are a better you than you were back then.